Predator Awareness

Lack of empathy is the bottom line to your divorce from a predator. Negotiating with them from an empathetic viewpoint is a fruitless quest. How they view the outcome will blow your mind. In their book they are the hero and they are the one deserving whatever. Do not kid yourself in believing you significantly contributed. How could you. You don’t rise to their level.

I say fine. Don’t try to change a predator’s view. Let them be the hero. And further stroke this need by leading a predator to believe that they will be an even bigger hero by “giving” you whatever it is that you want. Manipulating a manipulator is possible. The key to your success is putting your “genuine” emotions in your pocket during the dance.

Predators need control and attention. Give them what they need knowingly. The difference between now and that crazy relationship is that you were clueless that your empathy was being manipulated for the benefit of these needs. Appreciation of what they need gives you the upper hand.

Put your hands together and pray that your predator moves on and focuses their attention on another. This outcome has two benefits. First they will have a new object (albeit a person to you and I) to manipulate/control AND they will present to this new object of attention “how you are screwing them” to get that much needed “hero” worship.

The only way you win in a divorce from a predator is appreciating how their mind works for strategy building.

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