Predator Awareness

Is It REALLY Worth It?

A poll should be taken on how many divorces with children end up fighting in court over child support/custody issues. Sadly these cases should have the least court intervention, but reality indicates they have the most.

A Judge (stranger), who is an arm of the government, reaches out and sets the rules for raising your child(ren). Your state’s legislature creates the boundaries with laws and your judge fashions an order within these boundaries.

Ideally our children should be raised within the boundaries of law by their parents in a cooperative environment. How lucky are the children whose parents have divorced and their best interest is the priority. Both parents behaving in the spirit of cooperation to offer stability and security.

How unfortunate for the children whose parents place revenge, anger, control and greed above their interests. It is in those cases our government takes control in an effort to protect a citizen, your child.

I think one of the most detrimental aspects of divorce with children is that support and custody are intertwined. Too often a parent fights for more custody time in order to reduce support. Custody time does factor into the determination of support.

This motivating factor creates situations where a parent may have little interest and/or skill to raise children, yet a battle is raged to save money. Guess who suffers.

I can’t fathom how you tell a child that their government is forcing them into an environment of a parent who has little or no interest in their welfare. If you judge yourself to be the only reasonable and responsible parent of your child, then stop with the “win at all cost” attitude and start building a strategy to protect your child.

Child rearing should never be a war zone. I suggest you sit down with the other parent, the one you no longer can stand to be in the same room with, and ask them what they really want. Listen without judgment.

This is difficult, but needs to be done. Once you appreciate their position you can begin to discover a way to satisfy them and protect your child all at the same time.

There are times that you may be on the short end of the stick. It is better you are on the short end then your child. I am the first to beat the drum that each and every child should be financially provided for according to the abilities of both parents.

However, above all else, a child’s welfare must always be a parent’s priority. If you can keep your child out of harms way and end up losing money in that process, is there really any question about what you should do.

If you are battling with a parent that places money above your child’s best interest let them have their “worthless” money so long as your child is provided for minimally. Your child does not understand the economics of the situation, however they do develop a sense of trust based on which parent provides and protects.

• 2008 Strategies By Custody Experts, Dr. Barry Bricklin And Dr. Gail Elliot (Mens Or Womens Version).

If you are constantly taking your situation to court then a complete stranger decides in a very short period of time a division of custody, and each time you are gambling with your child’s trust.

A major complaint after custody is court ordered is the greedy parent does not live up to their hard fought obligation. Now you want to take them back to court to increase support and decrease custody.

In theory that is great. From your child’s point of view it is actually better that a parent who seeks custody merely to save money is doing them a favor by not showing up for their court awarded time.

So often the time awarded is beyond this parental interest of involvement. Don’t be angry, be grateful. These types are the last person you want influencing your child.

• The Woman’s Guide To Divorce
• What is Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)?
• Co-Parenting Nightmare
• Things to be Aware of During a Child Custody Court Case
• Frequently Asked Child Custody

You may have picked poorly on who you were going to co-parent a child with. But don’t add insult by waging a war with somebody who may live their life in the absence of empathy. It is a fruitless quest for you, and your child will suffer if you don’t get that.

I have written extensively on these types. Spend some time researching how their mind works in the event your child’s other parent happens to be one. You need to appreciate what you may be up against.

Your strategy is all wrong if you believe an arm of the government can make an individual who lives in the absence of empathy perform appropriately. These folks will behave inappropriately their entire lives. Your goal is to have them take their act elsewhere.

Is the time you spend in court REALLY worth it?

Child’s Other Parent a Monster
Child Custody Battles: Time to Win That War
How to Get Child Support Using Heroism Leverage